COPING WITH WIDOWHOOD OUTCOMES AND EXPERIENCE: THE CASES OF SELECTED WIDOWS IN BENIN CITY, EDO STATE, NIGERIA

Monday Abiola, Michael Ndisika

Abstract


Widowhood is best described as a nightmare for widows. As a result, the many patterns and ways that widows have used to cope with their experiences with widowhood must be examined in order to comprehend the problem of widows and devise a realistic support system for them. This study therefore aimed to evaluate the coping mechanisms of chosen widows in Benin City, Edo State Nigeria. The research design adopted for this study was the one-shot cross-sectional research design. The sampling technique for the collection of the qualitative data needed for this study was guided by the purposive sampling design, and the snowballing sampling technique, and the analysis of the qualitative data collected was analyzed with manual content analysis technique. It was found that some were coping well because they were prepared for widowhood, and for some others they were coping well because of the availability of resources that their husbands left behind, or their personal resources. Widows who were finding it difficult to cope were mainly surviving either on meager income, or/and with alms they receive from relatives and friends. Furthermore, some others had resorted to spiritual succour by having faith in God, the greater provider. The major need of widows is the ability for them to have resources necessary for the provision of good housing, relatively adequate feeding, and education for their children. Widows should be motivated to form cooperative societies that will function as platforms for economic skill acquisition, obtaining commodities at cheaper rates, and for securing soft loans meeting their business demands and the educational needs of their children.


Keywords


Widow, Widowhood, Culture, Coping Strategy, Benin City.

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